tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post4489889112944855534..comments2023-06-19T11:24:44.172+01:00Comments on Alexander Residence: Goodbye MumPenny P.S. and A Residencehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06763484380356593179noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-35854731165112764642011-03-20T09:20:15.731+00:002011-03-20T09:20:15.731+00:00just pooped by via silent sunday and this post cau...just pooped by via silent sunday and this post caught my eye. Moving picture, moving tale. Your mother in fact died on my birthday. My mother died when I was 20 from an aggressive form of cancer and reading your post brings happy but distant memories. Keep writing about them before you forget.Mrs Worthingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05117989108197225509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-76118670167980617672011-02-20T23:18:45.703+00:002011-02-20T23:18:45.703+00:00I'm so terribly sorry to read this. Your post ...I'm so terribly sorry to read this. Your post was beautiful and heartbreaking xxellahttp://notesfromhome.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-84494559959199537472011-02-13T21:13:33.582+00:002011-02-13T21:13:33.582+00:00I have just read your post and have tears running ...I have just read your post and have tears running down my cheeks, I so understand how you are feeling right now as I to have lost my own lovely Mum. Nothing can prepare you for the overwhelming sense of loss and emptiness you feel inside.<br /><br />Please accept my sincere condolences. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve, don't feel guilty it is a long slow process, but I am sure with the love and support from your friends and lovely family it will be a little easier.<br /><br />Carole xcarolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02845669693852948844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-8899036549909560032011-02-10T23:48:52.756+00:002011-02-10T23:48:52.756+00:00Thank you for all the support and advice. Am slowl...Thank you for all the support and advice. Am slowly getting back into blogging and popping by to say thanks. It makes such a difference blogging and being part of such a supportive community xxx <br />Waterbirthplease- saw the badger book in the hospice, it looked very special, will buy it.<br />Lynne thanks have ordered it. <br />Michelloui- my dad just bought the film on DVD, glad someone else knows it!Penny P.S. and A Residencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06763484380356593179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-17796817875254197282011-02-06T20:25:14.385+00:002011-02-06T20:25:14.385+00:00So dreadfully sorry about your loss. That's a ...So dreadfully sorry about your loss. That's a really beautiful post and a very fitting image. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-5934977908053635362011-02-04T20:32:09.352+00:002011-02-04T20:32:09.352+00:00I am so sorry for your lossI am so sorry for your lossMarzenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03192888504612654596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-25969646892424261942011-02-04T16:49:28.996+00:002011-02-04T16:49:28.996+00:00Aw, you are so welcome. It's nice to help, ev...Aw, you are so welcome. It's nice to help, even if its just a little bit xOoh Baby - All things Cuteablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14206157706678148566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-86590245741017745282011-02-04T16:24:17.824+00:002011-02-04T16:24:17.824+00:00Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. My m...Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. My mum died when I was 25, and I miss her so much. Your mum sounds like a wonderful, inspirational person, and I really like the reading you put at the bottom, so very true. Your mum will live on in your hearts with lots of wonderful memories. We use this book at my work in a Children's Hospice to explain to siblings about death - it's a really gentle way of explaining, I hope it helps you:<br /><br />http://www.amazon.co.uk/Waterbugs-Dragonflies-Explaining-Death-Children/dp/0826464580<br /><br />Big hug - Lynne xOoh Baby - All things Cuteablehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14206157706678148566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-87296282260911299482011-02-04T10:14:10.895+00:002011-02-04T10:14:10.895+00:00So sorry! Beautiful post. Sending you a big hug!So sorry! Beautiful post. Sending you a big hug!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-89002194839888099662011-02-03T13:39:52.846+00:002011-02-03T13:39:52.846+00:00I remember that film as well from my childhood. Wh...I remember that film as well from my childhood. What a special connection--the film, the book, the card. I am so sorry to read this post and read about your loss. I wish you strength and courage. And keep writing about it. This is beautiful. xMichelloui | The American Residenthttp://www.theamericanresident.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-83579260114490672132011-02-02T21:16:47.626+00:002011-02-02T21:16:47.626+00:00What a brave and wonderful post about something so...What a brave and wonderful post about something so hard to write about. You're an amazing writer who quite obviously had an amazing mother. I send you all my best wishes and big hugs xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487552689054019340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-6172880031783761302011-02-02T21:11:47.483+00:002011-02-02T21:11:47.483+00:00My heart just sank when I saw this blog title. Fun...My heart just sank when I saw this blog title. Funny but I've been thinking of you recently. I'm glad you were with her. So many things rang true in that blog and brought a lot of emotion back. I sang my mum lullabies. She was taken too soon, but you will eventually be glad you could say your goodbyes, and it will get better with time. There's a beautiful childrens book called "Badgers Parting Gift" that may help. It's especially to help little ones understand death. Your Mum sounds amazing. Love and strength to you xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-18376460431927985572011-02-02T21:06:21.038+00:002011-02-02T21:06:21.038+00:00So sorry ro learn of your sad news. Sending you h...So sorry ro learn of your sad news. Sending you hugs xxJennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10524620493101422101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-36533431797531957272011-02-02T20:05:32.480+00:002011-02-02T20:05:32.480+00:00Penny, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum, I ...Penny, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum, I hope you're doing ok. <br /><br />Thinking of you and your family, much love Lucy xxxLucy Quickhttp://www.perform.org.uk/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-10766961614470583232011-02-02T18:39:22.699+00:002011-02-02T18:39:22.699+00:00I'm so sorry to hear your sad news Penny. Trus...I'm so sorry to hear your sad news Penny. Trust your instincts as to what's right regarding your daughter and the funeral. Lots of love and hugs to you and yours xKath Parkloverhttp://parklover.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-12404700731288887792011-02-02T18:15:18.295+00:002011-02-02T18:15:18.295+00:00Thank you all so much for these words of encourage...Thank you all so much for these words of encouragement and wisdom. I am back and forth like a yo yo and not getting much time to keep on top of replies but I will, just as soon as things calm down. And I am so greateful for the support Penny xxPenny P.S. and A Residencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06763484380356593179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-70797121697099727152011-02-02T12:43:58.750+00:002011-02-02T12:43:58.750+00:00Oh Penny, I am so sorry.
I hope you're coping ...Oh Penny, I am so sorry.<br />I hope you're coping ok.<br />All I can say for your 4 year old, is neither you or she will ever regret the truth. Let her choose, I'll bet she'll want to do what makes you happy, so guide her in the direction you feel is right.<br />Momma knows best.Laura Tyrrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14763863418016699749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-37301399965883916982011-02-02T09:55:36.427+00:002011-02-02T09:55:36.427+00:00Oh Penny, I am so sorry for your loss. keep on ma...Oh Penny, I am so sorry for your loss. keep on making your mum proud, I love that she made you a daiy chain head dress. A friend of mine started a diary when she was losing her dad, about all the funny/inspirational/wonderful things he did and said. Can you do the same?<br /><br />I agree with Gemma regarding the funeral, another 4 (nearly 5) year old I know wrote with help a letter to their Grandma. It went into the coffin and was so sweet, said "keep on rocking Grandma, you are the bestest ever and I will always love you lots and lots and lots" She also drew lots of pictures as well.<br /><br />Masssive hugs, that is a beautiful post. xxSuper Amazing Mum (Super AM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/02214909651828167642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-40296428625133930172011-02-01T11:17:52.904+00:002011-02-01T11:17:52.904+00:00Oh Penny you've made me cry again! That's ...Oh Penny you've made me cry again! That's a beautiful post and it's wonderful that so many special memories are surfacing for you. 'Memories are the ability to gather roses in the snow' - hold them close in the tough times. <br />I didn't bring my kids to Dad's funeral as I wanted to focus on the saying goodbye - it was the right decision for me but you do have to decide yourself. You'll know. Kids have an amazing ability to deal with death - they are learning about life and that this is a part of it - though watch out for the strange questions when you're least expecting it - they don't know much about tact... <br />Thinking of you every day. Am here when you need me. xKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16346951374357324691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-83748172712770558332011-02-01T09:35:28.593+00:002011-02-01T09:35:28.593+00:00So sorry to hear this news. I can't imagine ho...So sorry to hear this news. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. All my thoughts are with you. Lovely poem. XBecky (Hazel and Blue)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06528837329481758989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-8120545774368185632011-02-01T09:05:28.654+00:002011-02-01T09:05:28.654+00:00Beautiful post, carry on making her proud. If it&#...Beautiful post, carry on making her proud. If it's any help, I took my son to my Uncles funeral when he was 18 months old, because my Uncle loved him, and I didn't see why he shouldn't be part of it. He was far too young to understand but was an lovely antidote to the sadness. Saying goodbye is about celebrating, love, life and family; personally, I think it's important that everyone shares in that no matter how old or how young.helloitsgemmahttp://helloitsgemma.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-80314861453440881432011-01-31T20:23:04.273+00:002011-01-31T20:23:04.273+00:00It's really hard, my thoughts are with you. My...It's really hard, my thoughts are with you. My dad died nine years ago now, and I still have incredibly raw moments of grief. I'm glad you have good memories of her, it is the best comfort now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-13946539813072554522011-01-31T18:34:56.198+00:002011-01-31T18:34:56.198+00:00I am so sorry for your loss. My hugs and thoughts ...I am so sorry for your loss. My hugs and thoughts are with you XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17266711293046712178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-64531956891879818812011-01-31T16:56:36.096+00:002011-01-31T16:56:36.096+00:00My Gran died when I was five years old. I have suc...My Gran died when I was five years old. I have such wonderful memories of those few years that we had with her - she was always taking me and my sister on picnics or adventures. I remember when my Mum told me that she was going to die. I had been to visit her in hospital but I didn't understand until Mum explained. We were sitting on the stairs at home when Mum told me and I remember sobbing my heart out. But I don't remember when she finally passed away.. I think I had said my goodbyes and as only children can I had accepted that I wouldn't see her again. We didn't go to the funeral and I don't regret not being there. I hope this helps.<br />Sarah xLegoBoyMumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3787939921210451385.post-269733301284832322011-01-31T15:42:47.562+00:002011-01-31T15:42:47.562+00:00I'm so sorry to hear of your Mum's death. ...I'm so sorry to hear of your Mum's death. I have no advice about how to handle it with children, sorry, but I'm sure you will get lots of good advice from people who have experience. <br /><br />Your Mum sounds like an amazing, inspirational woman. When I saw it was a Humanist ceremony I thought "I like the sound of this woman" but what she did with your graduation sounds wonderful. It takes someone very wise and special to understand that everybody makes their own way in the world and has their own experience, without worrying about what other people might think and conforming to anyone's expectations. <br /><br />Best wishes to you all. xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com